Namaste and welcome again to another posting for the Quiet Mouse Strikes Back. I just wanted to talk briefly today about making friends as an adult man.
It totally reminds me of that movie "I Love You Man" with Paul Rudd and Jason Segel where a bachelor who has no other male friends has to search out a new bff to be his best man at his wedding. I have a few close friends that live in other states, but the older I get the more difficult I find for it to make friends with adult men. Right or wrong, there is a lot of stress involved in letting new people into your life and into your heart. There is also a lot of rampant homophobia out there which makes it difficult taking to strange, unfamiliar men. A lot of the problems have to do with maturity, in my opinion.
It does feel a lot like dating when you are trying to make new guy friends because you really have to open up and put yourself out there in a vulnerable way. In addition, you are kinda forced into one if those get-to-know-you sort of situations where sometimes people are nervous of being judged in a way that's similar to dating. Fortunately, straight men usually can talk about several easy things to break the ice that most of us have in common like our love for women, sports, and getting crunk. Perhaps all we need are a few beers or a blunt to break down the wall, maybe a bbq, a bro-date at a sporting event, or some combination thereof to loosen up and let a new friend into your life. We just all need to take a step back sometimes and realize that it is difficult for all of us to open up to new people. Each person has their own demons and our own fears of judgement and criticism: this is natural. We just need to work on ourselves and fix the broken parts so we can allow others to become a meaningful part of our lives. This has been the one and only Quiet Mouse 420.
Peace. Love. Respect. Honesty.
It totally reminds me of that movie "I Love You Man" with Paul Rudd and Jason Segel where a bachelor who has no other male friends has to search out a new bff to be his best man at his wedding. I have a few close friends that live in other states, but the older I get the more difficult I find for it to make friends with adult men. Right or wrong, there is a lot of stress involved in letting new people into your life and into your heart. There is also a lot of rampant homophobia out there which makes it difficult taking to strange, unfamiliar men. A lot of the problems have to do with maturity, in my opinion.
It does feel a lot like dating when you are trying to make new guy friends because you really have to open up and put yourself out there in a vulnerable way. In addition, you are kinda forced into one if those get-to-know-you sort of situations where sometimes people are nervous of being judged in a way that's similar to dating. Fortunately, straight men usually can talk about several easy things to break the ice that most of us have in common like our love for women, sports, and getting crunk. Perhaps all we need are a few beers or a blunt to break down the wall, maybe a bbq, a bro-date at a sporting event, or some combination thereof to loosen up and let a new friend into your life. We just all need to take a step back sometimes and realize that it is difficult for all of us to open up to new people. Each person has their own demons and our own fears of judgement and criticism: this is natural. We just need to work on ourselves and fix the broken parts so we can allow others to become a meaningful part of our lives. This has been the one and only Quiet Mouse 420.
Peace. Love. Respect. Honesty.
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