Namaste and welcome once again to the Quiet Mouse Strikes Back. This blog has been going for 15 years and received over 100,000 views with no advertising or corporate sponsorship. Thank you to all my readers out there.
Now, to the point of topic: what does a "real man" look like in this day and age, this time in the greatest reality show in existence?
Like most things in life, there doesn't seem to be a shared reality for many. We see it all the time on social media, in the news, out of the president's mouth. The constant stirring of the shit pot has a lot of people on edge, seeking blame rather than solutions. A lot of that blame is placed on ethnic people, those with dark skin and perhaps don't speak proper English, LGBTQIA+ people, especially transgender individuals.
When we are living in fear and living in survival mode, our morals tend to disappear and the real side of our personalities come out.
I'm going to be honest as I can here for the few minutes I have your attention. There is an epidemic of male loneliness in the United States. Especially among right leaning young men.
There has never been a time in most of human history where women were allowed to have freedom and bodily autonomy, rights not attached directly to freedoms and liberties. This gives women the one freedom that is more important than all, and that is CHOICE.
Back when my grandma's generation was coming up, they couldn't get a home loan, a credit line, and even a lot of jobs because of gender discrimination. Now they are more free to be more selective or to even stay single, preferring a life without that type of commitment.
Biologically, we know that it takes young men longer to mature than their female counterparts at the same equivalent age. Then we have to factor in environmental issues like a lack of engagement from young adult men, who still want to live like children at home with their parents, choosing to spend an inordinate amount of time on video games and online computer games with their other male friends. For most of them, their only connections to the world are a small friend group and online exposure to one-sided news that is designed to keep them in this bubble of reverberation where they only hear and see the things they want to believe. Media of all kinds, from which they are exposed non-stop nearly from birth, has been portraying men as inadequate for most of my life with characters like Al Bundy and Homer Simpson, among many others. Men are often portrayed either as a bumbling nearly helpless oafish goof, OR as the high maintenance muscle bound jock type that spends more time on his own working out, hair and makeup to rival any potential female interest.
Then, to make things worse, there is more this trend going around online that has convinced more young men that they will never be worthy. And it's not all young women but the ones who are doing it have muddled the water. So, here it is. The 666 dating method, as I understand it. The man, allegedly must be over 6 feet tall, have a six figure salary, six pack abs,and no baby mamas or kids of his own, even if she already does with another man.
As I said before, this has become an overblown thing online in social media. But the disheartening threat to young men is felt. We've gotten a little bit better about helping them express their emotions in a more positive manner, but then we get back to the peer pressures and societal pressures of what is presented as the image of a "real man". It's not often shown as the dad who busts his ass with multiple jobs to feed his kids, if he gets to see them because she got full custody....
A lot of young men grew up watching dysfunctional relationships that ended in divorce leaving them with negative feelings about women that lingered from childhood into adulthood.
Then there are the Peter Pan adults that never have had to grow up and are an embarrassment and shit stain, but shown by the media to be real tough guys. I'm gonna step in and be the real voice of a real adult man and say a few things, especially in relation to this weak piece of shit sitting in the oval office right now.
I KNOW that neither Trump nor the majority of his supporters and enablers are what society and the media have convinced people for decades of what a "real man" looks like. These people are not them, I assure you. I'll explain why.
Real men, real mother fuckers, they don't have to brag about how great they are, how smart they are, how rich they are, how much power they have. NO.
Weak mother fuckers do.
Real men don't have to brag about how much women love them, or how much sex they are having.
Weak mother fuckers do.
Real men don't have affairs because they love and are committed to their wives.
Weak mother fuckers aren't.
Real men don't have to pay for sex from porn stars while they're married to a model.
Weak ass Donald Trump does.
Real men don't have to rape or sexually assault women.
Weak ass Donald Trump does, and has been convicted in court by a jury of peers.
Real men don't rape underage girls, children, at Epstein island.
Weak ass Donald Trump did.
Real men go to work and do their job.
Weak ass Donald Trump spends most of his time golfing, tweeting, using his position of power to enhance the wealth of him, his family, and billionaire buddies, oh, and watching FOX "news" instead of working for the American people.
Real men don't always need to be the center of attention. Real men don't need to put down or harm others to feel better about themselves. Real men don't demand others worship and praise them. They don't demand participation trophies and medals from kiss asses, suck-ups, and yes-men.
Weak men like Donald Trump do.
Real men support others. Real men can admit they are wrong, shed a tear, and hug another man without the lame shame of bigotry and homophobia.
Boys that think someone like Donald Trump is a "real man" don't seem to have a clue what that even would look like, poorly hiding racism and toxic masculinity behind guns, threats of violence and demonization to their perceived enemies that heaven forbid want equal rights, clean air and water, adorable housing and health care, etc... and don't forget the ever popular right wing social justice warrior online trolling.
